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To Bring Up the Child – it Means to Open His Inclinations and to Direct in
Life
Starting to education, we, adults, have got used to take
up a special role of command, dominations and the superiority over children,
losing sincerity, a spontaneity and ease of perception of life, - those
displays, those qualities which children wait from us with impatience, but not a
cruelty, roughness and malice.
Let's try to understand, what is the essence of education,
and what for we do it? And whether there is a necessity to bring up? Whether we
have the right with violent diminished responsibility, importunity and
persistence to impose to children and youth our outlook, estimations, positions,
own sights, or not suitable to life installations, norms, or numbed manners,
habits? Whether it is necessary to try to impart habits, rules of behaviour to
watch children and to direct them at own discretion?
We want our children to be happy, healthy, have achieved
success, have lived life interestingly and substantially, better than their
parents. We are ready to make for this purpose everything possible and even
impossible. We try to bring them up correctly, give them prestigious education,
we create conditions for improvement of their health, we help to create for them
their own family. But everyone makes it, proceeding from personal reasons on the
basis of own life experience and values. Thus desires of the child are not
always taken into account, and, maybe, someone would like to take into account
them and to direct the child according to his inclinations and abilities, but
does not know them. Our experts can make it on a scientific basis already in the
age of since three years.
All potential opportunities are already incorporated in the
person from his birth and are found out through disclosing of a mentally
informational genetic code. The child is born already with the certain
inclinations, has the features of mentality and character to change which during
life it is impossible. And by means of education it is possible even to deform
mentality of the child and to complicate his life, if to demand from him such
decisions and actions which do not fit his natural qualities. Therefore it is
necessary to not punish and press on the child, to not demand that would be
desirable for parents, but direct correctly the child according to his natural
inclinations, to help him to realize them, to be natural and freely display
himself, that is why to grow sure in own forces and independent, to become the
personality who knows himself, what he wants and how to achieve it.
Education is management of process of formation of the
person. Thus it is not that management where the rigid manipulation the child
and his humility of the teacher’s will takes place, but creation of favorable
conditions for an all-around development of the person. Such conditions are:
development of strong qualities of socionic personality type and formation of
the appropriate positive character traits. Congenital character and social
character differs. Congenital character is essence of mentality which contents
is opened by socionic personality type, and social character are the acquired
features in dependence both on influence of social environment and on natural
mental essence. The socionic personality type imposes the certain restrictions
on formation of character, one features can be developed boundlessly, the others
- only to the certain border, developing the certain norms.
Experts of Centre of Socionics can open prominent features,
the strong and weak sides, give the recommendation for realization of strengths
and protection weak sides, how to bring up correctly and direct the child, not
injuring him, and completely opening his abilities, talents and opportunities.
At disclosing early vocational guidance kinds of activity to which the child is
declined are offered. It gives knowledge in a subject orientation at a choice of
clubs, school subjects. Having bought on your choice the characteristic, you can
learn subtleties of character of the child in the early childhood. And it will
give you knowledge, how to behave with him better to not injure him, what it is
possible to demand from him and what is not. Having opened congenital qualities
of the child, our experts give the recommendation for education how to not
re-educate and oppress the child but to direct him according to his nature.
Natural relationships between parents and the child and any of
parents influence also on development of the child. The attitude of the child to
parents, his perception what is told him, reaction on what is demand from him
depends on these relationships. Knowing subtleties of relationships, it is possible to
find a way to the child, to influence him indirectly to make him understand you
better and react correctly. Having determined the socionic personality types of
members of family, it is possible to disclose relationships between them and to give
the recommendation for adjustment of mutual understanding.
Education as it is accepted to perceive it is not meaningful,
such education is not for the benefit, but rather for the detriment of
development and becoming of the personality, its realization in life. There is a
knowledge of natural laws which is necessary to take into account and adhere to
them, and to show worthy behaviour by own example. Parents, relatives, or
extraneous people must have skill to direct thoughts and actions of children in
such way to give them the effective checked up information and knowledge to be
an example in displays itself, in their behaviour, acts.
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